“Some people do not feel good about themselves unless they are in a relationship,” says Drenner.
If your self-worth is tied to your relationship status, it’s tough to be yourself or get anything positive out of dating and relationships.
“If being in a relationship consumes you and every weekend is a hunting expedition to land a significant other, you need to be single,” says Concepcion.
“A new relationship is often the perceived need, but the more relevant need is learning how not to be lonely when alone.” Get comfortable flying solo and your future relationships will reap the benefits.
So here are the signs that you need to be on your own.
And once you’re ready to get back out there, here’s How to Know She’s the One.
“You just got out of a relationship, and rather than taking time to reflect you instead immediately try to jump into meeting another person.” Soletti notes that this behavior also usually stems from fear of being alone, but it’s important to take time to heal and reset after a breakup. Then it’s definitely best to take the time to get over them before jumping into something new.
“You’ll only attract someone just like your ex because you attract what you focus on,” says Lisa Concepcion, Dating & Relationship Transformation Expert and Founder of Love Quest Coaching. Being happy in the moment is the best way to move forward from a past relationship.” And for more great relationship advice, here are some warning signs no couple should ignore.